Do you remember when everyone used to say "psych" or "psyched you out"? Well that's what I felt like this week. We had not heard anything on Tuesday about the judge looking at our case and when our agency said tomorrow I didn't actually think that meant tomorrow. Anyway, we got a call from our agency on Wednesday morning that we passed court. I was so happy and excited and called Dustin right away. Of course I then posted it on our traveling group's facebook page because they feel like a natural extension of our friends and family right now. In fact, two of the women on there even called me because they were so excited for us since we have been waiting about 3 weeks now. It was so funny because one of them was telling me how she asked our agency "are you sure?" and they laughed at her and said yes. We were so excited we could finally show her face and so I posted some on facebook and had many congratulations. Then about 45 minutes later I get another call from our agency. They made a mistake...we did not pass court. I was completely devastated. I called Dustin and I also called one of the girls who called me and told her that apparently I should have asked "are you sure?" I began to take off all the pictures on fb because she is still not legally ours. I couldn't even talk to anyone because I just kept crying. Tuesday was a hard day but Wednesday was even harder!
I since then have found some peace in the whole thing. Although I will say that I am not up to talking about the adoption right now because I can't hold back the tears and I really don't want to cry in public. So please don't ask how the adoption is going, find something else to talk to me about or avoid me for now. That may not sound like peace but it just makes me sad to think about and I think you can still have peace and be sad. So we have a new court date of May 4th. If the correct paperwork is there and the judge looks at it we will pass, if not then we continue to wait. Please don't ask me next week if we have heard anything because trust me if we pass you will know it. Thank you so much for understanding and respecting our wishes we sincerely appreciate it and we appreciate all of your prayers so much. Keep praying for us. Our little girl will be getting a care package from us hopefully very soon so continue to pray for her as she waits for us to come back and get her. Mommy and Daddy are coming just as soon as we can :)
Saturday, April 30, 2011
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Tuesday, April 26, 2011
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Posted by Dustin & Megan at 9:55 PM
No we still have not passed court yet. Last week we got an email saying that the judge was going to look at our case next Tuesday. That's pretty much all it said, it did not say whether or not the paperwork we were missing was there. Well Tuesday has now come and gone and the judge has yet to look at our file again. I have been mostly okay since we've left and have kept my hopes up and my realism on, but today it all came crashing down. It was one of those days when I can't even explain where the tears were coming from just that they were coming on and off all day. By the way when I say tears I actually mean fall out ugly cry! I have been praying and praying and praying and could not hear what God was saying to me. Through this journey God really has gotten me through tough moments and I usually have signs all around me telling me what to do, which is usually to let go and be patient. This was not one of those days. I kept waiting to hear it and I never did. I went to bible study hoping that maybe I would come away knowing exactly how I should feel and...nothing. All day I walked around in a funk just waiting for the answer. I had not heard anything all morning and by noon I assumed that since I hadn't heard than there was probably nothing new to report. I broke down and emailed the travel coordinator and got an email saying the judge didn't look at it, hopefully tomorrow. Now "tomorrow" in Ethiopia or adoption terms actually just means "not today" it doesn't actually mean tomorrow. So we wait. I am praying for a miracle. I know God can move mountains and I am praying for Him to move one for us. I know He can!
On a good note we got some new pictures today. When we were in Ethiopia we didn't have any pictures to leave our girl so I was very excited when a family going this last week said they would take some for us. There were not too many families going at the end of April but God did a miracle for this family and gave them a court date before their son's birthday, AMAZING! I sent some pictures to their local Walgreens and she was nice enough to put them in a little album for our little girl. She said that she was so excited she hugged and kissed the pictures and said "mommy", "daddy". That just made my heart melt. Of course it also brought on a flood of tears. Thank you God for giving me this gift on a day when I really needed it. I keep reminding myself of ALL the blessings He has provided through this entire journey and try not to focus on the wait. Today was just a really hard day.
I am so thankful for the other families we travelled with and all of their encouraging words as well. I know that we have many people praying for us and it really does warm my heart. Thank you to all of them.
Tomorrow is another day. Even if we don't pass life will go on and we will continue to praise our King.
Romans 12:12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction and faithful in prayer.
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 9:41 PM
Saturday, April 23, 2011
"For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, declares the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts." (Isaiah 55:8-9)
Really missing our girl today. Dustin and I talked about how she feels like such a natural part of our family that it feels like she's missing from our house. Dominic was talking to his friend the other day saying something about his sister who is 4 1/2 years old and the way he said it was just like she's always been a part of our family, no different than him or Christian. We can't wait to get her home :)
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 1:41 AM
Friday, April 22, 2011
The following post is the page that is going in our daughter's adoption book to tell her about our first meeting with her. Some of it is sort of a repeat of what I have already posted in previous blogs but I thought it might be interesting for people to read this. This is from me to her.
For over a year Daddy and Mommy prayed and waited to finally meet our little girl. On Thursday March 31st we left our house in Burlington, IA to drive 4 ½ hours to Chicago where we would get on a plane to take us to Washington D.C. From there we boarded a 777 Ethiopian Airlines jet for the next 14 hours till we arrived in your homeland of Ethiopia. We arrived at the airport, got our visas and went through customs, then off to the Yebsabi guest house where we stayed. We quickly checked in, put our bags away and headed for the transition home at 9:30am Saturday April 2nd. We were finally on our way to meet you.
It was a bumpy ride in a diesel van with our driver David. We tried to take in all the sights, sounds and smells of the ride there that seemed to take an eternity. Mommy's stomach turned a little with nervousness and anticipation because I didn't know what to expect. Would you know who we were? Would you like us? Would you be scared of us? When we arrived at the AWAA transition home gate the nervousness turned into excitement. There were other families with us that we were meeting their children for the first time as well. We were all to take turns and they would bring out each child to each family individually and give them a few minutes before it was the next family's turn. One of the AWAA directors, Eyob (Job), told us that you were sick that day and you were actually in the clinic. He told us that we could go back to the clinic to meet you and bring you out. Our friends Brad and Tara Mowen from Galesburg, Illinois followed us with cameras to capture our first encounter with you.
You were asleep on a little cot in a back room with a couple of other children. The nanny woke you up to meet us and you were still very groggy. You obviously didn't feel well and were seemed a little stunned by what was going on. They had you dressed in a hot pink chenille sweater and heavy hot pink sweat pants. We greeted you and hugged you and told you that we were mommy and daddy. You graced us with hugs and kisses and even a few smiles. Brad and Tara had spent time with you all week and said that you were not your usual perky self. Job said that you had a tummy ache and you felt like you might have had a little fever as well. Once we got you up we left the room, put our shoes back on and headed outside to the front of the transition home where everyone else was. We brought out the bag we had brought to you, a pink canvas tote with your name Aliya Wefe embroidered on it. We had lots of fun things in it for you to play with. The first day we brought you a plastic cell phone, a working digital Fisher Price camera, sunglasses, books, a pink headband and some punch balloons. It took a little while for you to warm up to us and I think you were still tired and not feeling well. One of the nannies took you back down to the other transition home and changed your clothes into something we had sent you in a care package. The outfit was entirely too small because I didn't find out what size you wore until after I had already sent all your packages. After you returned you seemed like you were feeling better and you were giggling and running around saying “mommy” and “daddy”. It was music to our ears. There are not two better words than to hear those words coming from your lips. We all knew that we were family.
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 10:50 AM
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Thursday morning we went up to Entoto Mountain along with three other families. We had to take two vans because we would be too heavy to make it up the mountain in one, lol :) The drive up to the mountain was beautiful. We saw so many people, donkeys and the views were breathtaking. On the way up the mountain we saw many women carrying huge loads of sticks on their backs. We learned that most of these women are widows who have no other means to make money anymore so walk up the mountain two or three times a day to fetch kindling, take it down the mountain and sell it for about 20-30 birr per load. The exchance rate while we were in Ethiopia is 1:16 so 16 birr equals $1 US, wow! We are so fortunate and we forget it so often. Once we got to the top we toured the ground of the original palace from the 1800's and the Christian Orthodox Church. We saw the very first church built in Addis Ababa, a tiny round building that symbolizes God's omnipresence. The large church we saw is built with three layers to represent the trinity. We were also told that the ladies carry umbrellas to church to signify covering the arc of the convenant. Our guide told us about the holy water people travel across the country for to heal them of their illnesses, even of AIDS. It doesn't work instantly but over time it will cure anything. As we left the mountain we saw a man carrying a young boy in his arms on his way to the holy water as well as a couple of elderly women who had walked up the mountain and were now resting before they headed on to the water. Our guide also gave us an incredible recount of the history of the first emperor and his palace as well as a tour of the Entoto museum. The whole experience was so enlightening and interesting, eventhough I don't like history :)
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 3:20 PM
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Tuesday morning the majority of our traveling group had court. We were all supposed to meet with Duni from our agency but she was in the country somewhere advocating for a family so we did not get prepped before court. At 8:30am we all met down in the lobby of the guest house to pray for the families headed off for the courthouse. It was a wonderful prayer filled with God's holy spirit. That morning a couple more families from our traveling group showed up and we all went to the transition home while the other families were at court. It's such an amazing experience to get to take pictures for other families that are meeting their children for the first time. It's a gift for both you and them.
We had lots of fun with our little girl and I apparently didn't take any pictures where you can't see her face or some other child's so I don't have too many pictures to share in this post. Hopefully we will pass court soon and then I will post any picture I want of her on here :)
The next day three of us families went to court, one of which was supposed to have court on Friday but got moved up to Wednesday. Thank goodness they got in on Tuesday morning. We headed to the court house about 9:00 and waited for quite some time in a little square room up several flights of stairs. There was a mix of people waiting in that room. Some had on business suits and skirts, some had on jeans and one woman didn't even have shoes on. I looked at this woman longing to give her a pair of shoes but by the looks of her feet she looked like she had probably never worn shoes in her life so they would do her no good now. As we waited in that room the more I looked at her the more I wondered if that was the woman who took our daughter in and cared for her for the last four years. I knew our daughter was from a remote southern region so I thought that it could be a possibility, I was right. The other families that were with us knew who their birth families were and that woman was sitting in line with them. They had to go into the room before the judge first and give their consent again. Then it was our turn. It was a small room with two desks sitting on adjacent walls piled with files and folders. We answered in unison "yes" to several questions she asked us and then she gave her judgement on each families' case. Only one family out of the three that were there passed. We were missing a police document from our daughter's region and the other family was missing a death certificate. We headed back to the guest house where we would actually get to meet the woman who rescued our daughter and took her in. Before I tell that story I want to share a couple pics. The first is of the families who went to court that day and the second is of the guys standing in the waiting room in their "unofficial" American uniforms of a bright colored polo shirt and khakis, lol. Dustin was the odd ball though because he did not have his shirt tucked in with his belt.
After lunch we went to visit a couple of the orphanages so we did not get to go to the transition home at all that day. The workers at the home must not have known we had court because they brought our little girl there like they normally would for us. We were told by some of the other families there that she watched as the vans pulled in one by one looking for us and when we didn't emerge she sat on the step and cried. It was so touching to hear that she cried for us but at the same time it was so heartbreaking. The previous day she clung onto our necks as we left and cried "mommy", "daddy". Two days in a row I cried for our little girl. One of the guys from our group that is close to her scooped her up and comforted her while another family played with her until it was time for the kids to go back into school. I was so glad to hear that the other families did that for us and for her :)
We had two big bags to take to the orphanages for donations and we hope to bring back more next time. The first orphanage we visited gave me mixed emotions. The nannies had the kids sing several songs for us, play some games for us and then they served us a traditional coffee ceremony. It seemed so "performed" like "oh here come the white people, we better have the kids do something for them". I was not the only one who felt that way but Dustin said, "what else are they going to do?" I suppose that's true, it just felt so fake. Anyway, we did have a great time handing out cars (makeenas) to the kids and the workers for their children at home. Dustin played ball with a couple boys and I held some babies. We also bought a few t-shirts to help the orphanage and bought a couple of handmade puzzles from one of the ladies that works there.
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 11:24 PM
Monday, April 18, 2011
We spent the morning at the transition home and had a very happy surprise. When we first met our daughter we gave her a bag with her name embroidered on it and some things inside. One of the things we brought her was a camera that my best friend had bought for her. People had told us to bring her a camera because she just loved them and kept pretending the binoculars we sent her were a camera. When my best friend was home we were shopping and found this pink Fisher Price camera, I was making a big deal about spending $35 on this camera that would probably be lost so she bought it. It was so nice of her to do that for us. Anyway, our little girl played with it all that first day, put it in her bag and took it with her when she left for the transition home. Now I refer to the transition home as a black hole. Once something enters it, you don't expect to see it again. So the next day when she returned to us with her bag but no camera in it I assumed it had been lost to the black hole. Well on the third day she returned with nothing but one of the older boys gave us her camera back. We checked it out and they had taken over 200 pictures on it. It was so awesome! We had pictures taken by many different children and even some of the nannies. These were pictures that we would never had gotten if the camera hadn't gone to the older transition home with the kids. In fact, some of these pictures were some of our favorite from the whole trip because it showed a child's perspective and a sort of behind the scenes view. Every day after that some of the boys would ask me for "picture" or "photo" and make a camera gesture. I would let them use it while we were there and then one of them would make sure we got it back before we left. By the end of the week we had over 500 pictures from this camera. The oldest boy at the transition home even opened the bottom of the camera, pointed to the USB plug and wanted to know if we could download the pictures so they could see them on the transition home's computer. I thought it was sort of funny how he knew all of that. We didn't get a chance to do that (I don't think the staff really wanted us touching their computer) but a family that is headed over there right now did offer to take them. I hope that the kids get to see all the cool pics they took of themselves. Some of the pictures were really good and some of them were not, but they had a lot of fun with it. I wish I could show you more pictures but most of them have kids in them and I can't show you any of their faces because of privacy issues. Anyway, this was such a gift :)
After the shopping excursion we were treated to a spa treatment. Dustin and I picked a one hour massage each and they let us do it as a couple's massage. This was a very nice spa and was obviously in a very rich part of town. As we waited I watched the people walk by the front window and if I wouldn't have known any better would have sworn we were on Michigan Ave in Chicago. The atmosphere of the people and the cars driving by reminded me of a posh little spot in America. It was sort of ironic that we were in Ethiopia and we were treated to a high end spa. Anyway, after waiting for quite some time we finally had our turn. It was fantastic! We had deep tissue massages that certainly helped to work out all the kinks of traveling and stress. Dustin swore it was the best massage he ever had. The cost was about 500 birr or $30 US so Dustin tipped our girls a $20 US bill each. Everyone thought he was crazy but we figure even at $70 US for two people for an hour massage that is still a steal. Hopefully we will be going back soon.
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 9:54 PM
On our second day in Ethiopia we went to the International Evangelical church with the other families at the guest house. Dustin and I asked about going to a traditional Christian Orthodox church but were told that it started at 6am, it's all in Amharic, it lasts about 3 or 4 hours and that you stand the entire time. So we opted to go with everyone else and go to the other church. It was a very nice contemporary church and service. The pastor is a white man from North Carolina and we actually ended up seeing him on the flight home. We sang basically the same songs as we do at our home church and the entire service was in English. There was a mix of Ethiopian people and some white faces mixed in.
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 9:15 PM
Sunday, April 17, 2011
I know many people have been checking our blog to hear about our trip to Ethiopia. Well I have finally felt up to it to post something. Depending on how long this turns out to be there may be several posts or just one really really long post, guess we'll see once I start going. By the way, I have a whole new respect for those bloggers who are diligent about updating their blog daily while in country. I had absolutely no desire to do that and it's taken me a week home to even do it now :)
The first picture is Dustin and I getting ready to leave the house at midnight on Thursday 3/31 to drive up to Chicago for the 6am flight to Washington DC. We decided to leave from there for the most direct flight. We flew straight from DC to Addis Ababa, which was fantastic. The second picture is our little Prius filled with our bags, Dustin even had to lay down the back seats to get all of our bags to fit. The next picture is our bags on the little cart at the airport. We had 3 big duffel bags and one large suitcase filled with donations as well as 2 carry ons with our clothes in them and 2 backpacks with supplies and toys. One couple I was talking to as I was waiting for Dustin to come back from parking the car asked if we were moving because we had so much stuff :)
Posted by Dustin & Megan at 1:38 PM